Passive

I've been thinking alot. It's odd though. I'm thinking differently than I used to.
I like it and hate it. i'm realizing alot. I know alot of people who aren't living their lives. They just go through the motions. They walk around staring blankly at things. It makes me sad.
I spent a long time like that. I just didn't care what was happening, because my pain was worse than everything else in the world. Yep, I was and still am selfish. This passive tendency is pretty widespread. And it isn't even a long term thing. Ever have a day where you just go through the motions?
Every day needs to be lived better than the last. I've taken to thinking about how tomorrow will be better than today. It helps to wake up with a smile on your face. It feels good thinking positively. I like it. It gives me a reason to walk around and talk to everyone. To smile at people. To just step out.
In short, life is an active thing. You can't sit back and expect to have things get better. You just can't. You'll end up staying inside your shell, hurting. Live life. Don't do.
Thanks.
Tyler

Missing

I've been missing. Physically, mentally, and emotionally.
Physically is the easiest to describe. Since I moved out, I never see my younger siblings. They miss me and text often, but it is not the same. I feel bad every morning when I get up. And feel bad when I lay down for sleep and don't hear them running around and causing havoc. It stinks.
Mentally, I'm just as bad. I've caught myself alot lately, just sitting in class or in the lounges at school, just staring blankly off. I find myself disengaged from everything around me. It makes it hard. I pride myself on my relationships and when I'm mentally not there, I feel like I let everyone around me down. I'm rude to my roommate, I blow off close friends, and I just stop caring about my classes.
Emotionally, I'm the worst. I can't seem to tell if I'm happy, sad, mad, or really anything. I'm not emotionally drained, just emotionally absent. I haven't been here. I've had quite a week.
I hate getting to this point. I truly do. I work really hard to stay together, like most people do, so it isn't easy to see myself falling down again.
What I'm getting at is to stay strong. Just because you're falling, don't let yourself fall into the trap of giving up. The biggest obstacle in getting better is starting. Once you start, keep going. Just don't give up.
Stay strong.
Tyler

Judged

Ever been judged? Everyone has. Whether negative or positive, judging affects the judged. You naturally judge someone when you see them. It's a hard habit to break.
You judge whether someone is going to be a friend almost at first sight. Whether they scare you. Whether they are good or bad. Even after just meeting someone, you still judge them by their actions.
Most of the time we don't think first. We don't think about what someone has been through. We don't think about their pasts. We don't think, yet we judge.
It hurts to be judged. I grew up in a bit of a rough situation. Never really had money. We didn't always live in nice places. As a result, I matured faster. I always looked meaner than I actually am. People avoided me, thinking there is no way I could actually be a nice guy.
Sometimes, I'm a jerk, but I do my best to be a nice guy to everyone I meet. I work really hard on disproving my demeanor. It still hurts when someone sees me and sees the harley shirt, boots, and the chain on my wallet, and give me room when they walk past me in a hallway.
Wait and think. Get to know someone before you write them off.
Thanks.
Tyler

Soften your heart

I'm learning. It's normal for a college sophomore to learn. I guess.
I'm not really learning academically though. I'm still in easy classes that require a minimum of effort. I'm learning about people. Learning about people and why they do what they do.
I used to judge people's actions. Not like right or wrong, but why they do things. I know a guy who has done some really bad things. He's bitter about them. He's always done his best for me. He's been a friend for a long time.
He has issues with anger though. And tends to alienate the ones who look up to him. We had a big fight about a month ago. I haven't talked to him since. I got angry. And bitter about how he treats the ones he loves.
I've seen him twice sinde then. Once was when I went to his house to pick up some of my things. When I got there, he walked outside. I got mad again. He couldn't even look at me. The second time was at a dinner. I sat across from him and he didn't even look at me. It hurt. I passed it off as him being a jerk.
Recently, I've been mulling over these things and I realized something. My ideas of how a friendship should be are sometimes a little unfair. I expect to get what I give, and some people can't give what I want them too.
It's a hard lesson. I'm a naturally bitter person. I find it hard to forgive. I did figure out that I need a softer heart. I'm too mean to people. Too unforgiving. I still can't talk to this guy and say that I forgive him and mean it. I just can't.
I need to soften my heart. Everyone does though. Everyone has issues with forgiveness. Forgiving others, forgiving themselves. We are raised with hearts hardened to "survive". We are taught to be tough.
I'm not perfect. Believe me, I want to share this because what helps me, can help other people too. That's what this blog is about.
Thanks.
Tyler

Lonely

I've been feeling lonely these past few weeks. It's odd. I'm not lonely in a personal sense, I'm surrounded by people, but it's almost emotional.
I don't know why. It's a feeling of restlessness. It's a feeling of recklessness. It's hard to explain. The closest feeling is loneliness. I don't know what to do. I feel trapped.
I feel like I'm stuck in a spot. A hole. And I can't seem to get out. I guess the loneliness comes from feeling that nobody can help me out.
This post isn't going to be advice. It's me thinking out loud. Or I guess visually, depending on how literal you want to be. I guess I'm asking for help.
I have had tons of things happen lately. It's been a stressful month to say the very least. I've had a lot of bad happen. I've also had a lot of good. I've learned alot about myself. I've become a slightly better person. I've become better at expressing myself, emotionally, verbally, etc.
I just don't know what this feeling is. I just don't know what to do.
Thanks.
Tyler

Strength

I pride myself on my physical strength. I love it. I've been working out for years. It's an amazing feeling. I'm physically strong because lifting weights/sports was my way of escape. I used it to get away from reality.
I spent years thinking that if you were physically strong, you could do anything. It didn't matter.
About two years ago, I realized how wrong I was. I noticed that I'd had almost no good memories with friends. Really, no friends at all.
It was a hard realization. I was so independent of everything else, that I didn't even try to be happy. I thought I was strong enough to make it on my own.
I didn't know that I had almost no emotional strength. I'd blocked myself in. Blocked everyone else out. I didn't want friends, because they couldn't help me more than I could help myself.
I was antisocial. People were scared of me. I wouldn't talk to people. I wouldn't smile. I would sit in class and participate the bare minimum. Looking back, I scare myself.
I was like this for almost a year. I met a girl who I just connected with. She reminded me of me. She had the same look in her eyes that I saw in the mirror every day. We started talking more. Found out we come from similar pasts. We also figured out that we relied on ourselves and didn't let anyone else in.
We kept talking. I started to realize that I need other people. I didn't realize how empty my life was until I saw it in someone else. It was rough.
Our lives are all about relationships. Our friends support us more than we know. Sometimes it takes losing it all to figure out that you had it all. Your life isn't all about you. You affect more than just you. What you do affects everyone around you. A smile could brighten someone's day.
Don't be scared to let someone in. Even if it's just a little bit. That person may need strength.
Life isn't about physical strength. It's about emotional strength. Without emotional strength, we're empty. We need other people, too. We aren't strong on our own.
Thanks
Tyler

Still

Ever have someone in your life that you think is the reason you're living? Someone who could make you feel invincible?
There was a girl in my life not too long ago who fulfilled this role for me. She was the reason I smiled in the morning waking up. She was the first person I'd hug. She was the last person I'd text at night. I came to depend on her. She became a drug to me.
I would go a while without seeing her and I'd go through withdrawal in a way. I'd not be in the best mood, I'd be snappy to friends, I'd not be myself.
This girl was the center of my life. She helped me through more things than I can count. She was a voice of reason. She became more important to me than me.
What I'm getting at is that I have issues focusing my life. I have issues finding a center for my life. I don't think this is too uncommon a problem. We put things in higher places than what they deserved. This girl got the highest position in my life. Above myself. Above my faith.
We tend to idolize people and things. We put them on huge pedestals. Especially when we aren't doing well. We try to put them before ourselves.
One thing I've learned is that you can't love anyone else until you love yourself. It sounds narcissistic, we have to forgive ourselves and love ourselves. Otherwise we tend to think less of ourselves and put ourselves below those around us.
Thanks for reading.
Tyler

Slavery

This weekend I went on a camp/retreat thing. It was a blast. I found out I can trapshoot like none other. And that food is always good grilled. And that Dutch Blitz is the perfect game for anyone with ADD. During this weekend, I made a ton of new friends. I learned a lot about myself, too.
I learned that I am strong. I am determined. I learned that I am the one who holds myself back.
This past month has been severely stressful. Between moving out, losing my job, and a few other things, I've been pretty down. I've let these things bring me down and hold me back.
I'm a slave. I worry about everything. I'm stressed about so much, I can't hardly think. I'm angry about things I see as being injustices to me. I'm sad about friends leaving for basic training. I'm bitter about past mistakes. Worry, stress, anger, sadness,  and bitterness. How many of you deal with any of these?
When you hold onto these things, they control you. I had a talk with a man over the weekend that cut past the bone. I haven't had the best relationship with my father lately. We couldn't talk without it turning into an argument or full hollering match. Finally we had an argument where I had to leave.
I'm not going to lie. I am mad about this. It hurt walking down the road with my clothes in two bags.
I let those things hurt me. I started letting them control me. I made a decision to never kick my kids out. Not the worst decision, but I decided so because my parents did it, and I didn't want to do what they did. Not because of right and wrong.
When you let things people have done make you decide things a certain way, you are being a slave. When you hold onto things that have been done or happened to you, you are a slave. Slavery is still around. We're all slaves at some point, whether it's depression, anger, bitterness, or any other number of things. And it's hard to let go. I'm a Christian. I believe that you can't do it on your own. Prayer is the key. Thanks for reading.
Tyler

Sleepless

So lately I've been running on about two hours of sleep. I don't know why. I can't seem to relax. It isn't that I'm not tired, or that I'm busy, I just can't sleep. I'm restless.
It's an odd feeling. I think it means my life will change soon. I think something big is about to happen in my life, be it good or bad.
It's hard to not think like that. To think in black in white. A change can only be good or bad. Why can't it be both? There has to be some positive. There has to be something to learn from it.
I'm pretty notorious for being negative. I'm a shameless cynic most of the time. I have issues seeing the good in things. I prefer the bad. I can handle bad things. Good things are harder for me to react to. I get overloaded, I guess you could say.
Recently, I got kicked out of the house. My father and I had a fight, and he told me to leave. I found a place to stay. I have a new home. This happening has made me consider a lot of things though. I believe.  I'll be moving back to Alabama soon for college (or at least I hope). I think I'll also start running more. And work on being a better friend.
So thanks for reading my random thoughts for the night.
Tyler

I forgive you

Hey guys, this post will have some explicit language. If that offends you, I'm sorry. It's exactly how I've felt lately.I didn't censor any of it.













Lately I've been angry. About a lot of things. I read a blog the other day. It was written by someone who deals with a lot of bitterness. The blog made this person feel better after writing it, so I stole the idea.

To the people and friends who judge me for my past.
Fuck you.
I forgive you.

To the man that taught me that I'll never be good enough.
Fuck you.
I forgive you.

To the teachers that told me my opinions don't matter.
Fuck you.
I forgive you.

To myself for holding onto pain so as to not feel love.
Fuck you.
I forgive you.

To the people who never care to look past my mask and get to know me.
Fuck you.
I forgive you.

To the woman who did all she could to drive me and my hero apart.
Fuck you.
I forgive you.

To the teacher that told me I got through all of my classes on luck and not intelligence.
Fuck you.
I forgive you.

To the person I love but can't hate.
Fuck you.
I forgive you.

To the man who told me I look uncivilized.
Fuck you.
I forgive you.
Sorry for blocking you on facebook.

To the girl who broke my trust.
Fuck you.
I forgive you.
I'm sorry.

To the girl who made me change my ways.
I love you.
Thank you.

To the friends who have supported me fully these past few weeks,
I love you.
Thank you.

To the people I don't even know who have been a shoulder to lean on.
I love you.
Thank you.

To the man that's pushing me to get a job.
I love you.
Thank you.

To the girl who taught me why I need to live.
I love you.
Thank you.

To the one who taught me crying is alright.
I love you.
Thank you.

To the man that jumped up to grab my hand when he first met me.
I love you.
Thank you.

To the family who took me in as their own when I had nowhere to go.
I love you.
Thank you.
It means more than words can ever express.

To the girl with cancer: You are gorgeous. Don't ever forget it. You're an inspiration to me.
I love you.
Thank you and keep it up.

To my cat-loving friend, thanks for making me feel like a good friend and person.
I love you.
Thank you.


To the teacher who has to read my creative writing assignments this semester.
I love you.
Thank you.
Forgive me.

To the girl who I couldn't say hi back to today.
I love you.
Forgive me.

To that same girl, I wish things didn't end up so badly.
I still love you.
Forgive me even if I don't deserve it.

To the friend who I've ignore all week because I'm hurting too much.
I love you.
Forgive me.

To my hero, sorry I spent most of my life rejecting you.
I love you.
Forgive me.

To the one person who was there when I needed the most help and I left in the cold.
I love you.
Forgive me.

To the brother who wronged me one time, sorry for removing you from my life.
I miss and love you.
Forgive me.
And let's ship up to Boston sometime.

To my little sister- I'm sorry we fought, but I want to make things right.
I miss and love you.
Forgive me.

I have learned that forgiveness is the key of letting go. Letting go of the bitterness, the anger, the hatred, lets you become the person you should be. It frees you from yourself, and the trap that we tend to form when we're down and not feeling strong. We have a tendency to hold onto pain. When we feel pain, we can ignore the good things around us. We're selfish by nature.  When we focus on the good in life, the love that surrounds us, the beauty of life, that pain fades. The bitterness goes away. It's not easy. It's hard. It's worth it though. It's worth going through.
Thanks for reading.
Tyler

Ghosts

Last night, two friends and I decided to walk around some creepy things. Hawthorne pool is pretty creepy at night, just saying. Before we decided to do this, we had spent two hours talking about haunted places, and random ghost encounters.
Needless to say, we scared ourselves. There are some odd phenomena that occur around those parts. I just woke up, and was reflecting on the events of last night and the random shadow that disconnects from walls, and I started thinking of old things that had stuck with me.
Not everyone believes in ghosts or hauntings. Actually, most people laugh it off as paranoia. But, take a second and think. Do you have any old memories that are stuck in your mind? Any old experiences that you get reminded of daily? Any old pain that you can't let go? If you answered yes to any of these, you're human. Congratulations.
We're haunted as humans. Haunted by pain. Haunted by family. Haunted by school. Haunted by that girl who's smile makes your day. We're haunted. We don't want to let go. Our past hangs around our shoulders like gangs of ghosts. We let these ghosts bog us down, and drag us under. We are haunted by our own ghosts. Ghosts we've allowed to latch onto our backs.
Lately, I've had a pretty heavy step. And a lot of weight on my shoulders. Some of it is me just hanging to old things, some is just things that have just happened.
I'm not going to tell you guys what to do to let go and "exorcise" your ghosts. Frankly, I don't even know where to start with my own. It's something I struggle with more than I care to admit. So instead of my normal advice, I'll just ask. How do you think you can get rid of your ghosts. Comment on here if you'd like. I'd appreciate any ideas. Thanks for reading,
Tyler

Into the ocean.

Ever listen to a song that just fits your mood? It's been a long week. I haven't seen my two sisters in like three weeks. I lost my job. I lost a relationship that meant the world to me. A close friend had her mother die. The song "Into the ocean" by Blue October says "I want to swim away but don't know how."
Have you ever felt like that? I want to leave this situation. I want to run away and give up and start all over. I want to never look back. These feelings have a tendency to run and jump into the front of my mind. The godfather of my future children said my fight or flight instinct is messed up sometimes.
I think we all get like that. I know, sweeping generalizations, my old psych professor would kill me for it. But I think the vast majority of us do this same thing. We'd rather cut our losses than stand up and fight.
I think it should be the opposite way. Why give up? Why do we decide we'd rather jump into the ocean and take our chances swimming, when we could take a chance on saving something before we run away? Why do we try to forget the past by running away? The past makes us who we are. I know some people have a hard past, believe me, I know, but that hard past is what makes you you. It makes me the biggest teddy bear in the world according to one good friend of mine. It's why I can laugh and smile when I look outside and realize that I'm alive and that everything around me is beautiful, no matter how tragic.
My sisters are having a blast, eating the best food ever in Indiana. No job means I have time to devote to friends and family that I've been neglecting. That relationship being lost caused me to start talking to people that I never thought I would talk to, and I'm the better person for it. My friend who's mother died now has a chance to find closure and to resolve old pain and issues. And while I may want to swim away, it's a good thing I don't know how, or I would miss all of these beautiful things.
Thanks for reading guys,
Tyler

Seize the Day

Lately I've been stressed. Very very stressed. A lot has been going on, and it has severely affected me as a person.I've been letting the stress bog me down and make it impossible for me to live and function as a normal teenage guy. I mean sure, I will dominate you at Reach, and I get good grades and I have a good job, but I'm on autopilot most of the time.
I don't live for today. I stress about the future. I let the past hold me down. I let this negativity bring me down. It got to the point where I work all the time just to get away. I just stay Busy to stay distracted because distracted me is best me.
The thing is, I'm not the only one like this. I'm one of millions of people that do this. It's unhealthy. It's another thing that helps someone fall into depression. It makes it harder to pick ourselves up. It makes things worse.
I believe that everything is going to work out. That everything has a reason and that there is a lesson in everything that happens in life. Call me an idealist. Call me what you will, but I'm fairly certain in this. The trick is to look into things with a new perspective. Rather than looking how things have hurt you, look at how they made you stronger, and if they haven't, see how they can.
I know this all looks like a great plan on paper, but it's tough. It isn't a split-second change, it takes work. It takes perseverance. It takes help. Have someone help you live for today. Ask someone their perspective on something. Stay open, and stay strong. Thanks,
Tyler.

Trying

When I was younger, I never tried to do anything. I just did it. This carried with me. I still don't understand when someone says "I'll try." It makes no sense to me. Either you do it, or you don't. Can or can't.
A little while ago, I had a friend who struggled with depression. She drove me nuts. She would always just "try" to not injure herself. She'd "try" to go to sleep. It was always "try".
I hated it. I began to resent it. It really hurt our relationship. We talked all the time, and now we really don't.
I always prided myself on my open mind, on my willingness to accept everyone for the way they are. I wasn't being open to her though, or really anyone else that wouldn't say definitely whether or not they would do something. Instead, I would rather just ignore them and reject the fact that they can't say for sure.
I'm really working on this. We can't call ourselves open-minded if we reject someone else's actions. It's being hypocritical. What I'm saying is when you disapprove of something, put yourself in that person's shoes. Those shoes may just fit you a little tight, and may hurt to wear. Some people have lives that are quite a bit harder than you would imagine. That girl with the smile on her face all the time may have an abusive father that makes her feel awful about herself. That guy that can make anyone laugh may be severely depressed.
Don't judge people. Be understanding of other people. Don't isolate yourself from other's just because they're different.
Thanks,
Tyler.

Walls

"These walls won't betray me.

These walls are like my safety."
-Dead Celebrity Status "If These Walls Could Talk"

I build walls. Big ones. I build walls that are armor. I build walls to keep everyone else out. I build walls to protect myself. I build walls to protect everyone else from me. Mostly, I build walls to hide.
I hide my emotions. I hide my pain. I hide anything that makes me vulnerable. I guess you could call me paranoid. You could also say I'm a coward.
I'd rather people see me "happy", I guess. I want them to see the big goofy smile. I want them to see the energy. I want them to hear my laugh, and laugh with me. I want them to see the "best" part of me. The part of me that doesn't hurt. The part that can smile through anything.
"These walls are my safety." These walls are my armor, my shell. They're my excuse.
Truth is, I'm not a people person. I get nervous. I prefer being alone, sitting quietly. I'd be happy to live on my own in the middle of nowhere. I'm a person that feels pain. I'm a person that gets angry. A lot more than I should. I sit up at night and regret how I treat people.
Lately, I've been stepping out of these walls I love so much. I've been letting the imperfect Tyler show through. I haven't been as scared to show who I really am. I haven't been holding it all in.
I always believed these walls kept me sane. I believed they let me be the person I should be. I regret that. I missed so much of my senior year, just because I was hiding in myself and hiding in the misery of going to a different school than the one I planned on. I didn't give anything a chance just because I was so stubborn.
The next line of the song is, "But sometimes I feel like these walls drive me crazy." I agree with everything but the first two words. These walls drive me crazy. They keep me in a preset schedule, where every day, I do the same things, keeping the same routines.
I'll leave you with a question and a thank you.
Do you have walls?
Thanks,
Tyler.

The next step

So, just recently, most seniors in the country graduated. Some are going to college. Some are joining the workforce. Some chose military. Some are just going to sit at home doing nothing.
The step from high school is huge. I have a lot of friends that rushed into the plans they made. Alot of these people are regretting it. I graduated early from high school. It was what I had always planned on doing. My high school wouldn't let me walk at graduation or even go to prom because of it.
Consider the consequences of your actions. Think on how they will affect the ones around you, your friends, family, and loved ones. Ask around. Ask people what they think about your plans. They may have some experience.
Really, just don't rush. Don't rush growing up. Childhood is precious, and when you lose it, it's gone forever.
Thanks,
Tyler.

The way she feels....

"Then she closed her eyes, Found relief in a knife." - "The way she feels" by Between the Trees

This song is amazing. I found it on accident, and it's been in my head since. It starts out with a girl who's had a long day. She goes to a drawer to get a knife. She can't find hers. She uses another as an escape from her emotional pain. It talks about her feeling alone and like there's nothing and noone there for her.
This feeling of being alone is pretty common. It's a feeling that just about everyone gets at least once, whether after a breakup, a fight, or whatever. It's a feeling of emotional desolation.
The girl in the song has this pain. She hurts. Hurts so bad that she feels that cutting herself will help bleed the pain away. Pain doesn't help you escape from pain. It just adds more. It's a temporary distraction. It's an addiction..
While it does feel like when you start, you can't stop, you can. The song ends in an amazing way. A guy comes into her life. He shows her there is love in the world. He shows her there is redemption.
This song isn't a fairy tale. It's real and possible. It's not easy to stop. I have a close friend who struggled with cutting. She fights the urge every day. She's gone two months without so far, and she's still counting. While it isn't impossible, it is hard. You can't beat feelings like that on your own. You need someone to hold on to. Someone to help you.
Find someone to hold on to. Somebody you can text in the middle of the night.  Do it even if you aren't struggling with any problems.  You never know what will happen tomorrow. It never hurts to be surrounded by people who love you. Thanks.
Tyler

Family

I saw a post on facebook the other night. It said family doesn't have to be blood. It's the people that are always there for you. The ones that will drop everything to come help you.
This is true. I look on my facebook, and see the list of nearly 20 people I consider family. These people all help me. They are amazing. Without them, I just couldn't deal. They do too much for me.
Alot of people say they are alone. That nobody cares for them. I beg to differ. If they were to go around, ask some people that they know really well, at least one will say they're family. At least one. These are the people you need to hold on to.
My Ma said to me that family is all you'll have at the end of the day. Family sticks with you. As a disclaimer, not all blood relations are always family. Some will abandon you. I have a large number of my family that I don't consider family. But the people who treat you special, the ones who will wake up at three in the morning to text you, those are the ones you need to stick to.
Thanks, and sorry for the big break,
Tyler

Happy

Today I'm happy. I finished my math final. It was painful, but I did. I also sold back some textbooks and made $160. So big smile on my face. I also don't have to work all weekend because I have no more school. It's such a good day.
These things make me happy, but it's not a permanent happy. I smiled for a little, but now it's just another day again. The money is great, until it gets spent. Then it's disappointing, but what use is it to just save money and never spend it? It's a catch-22. It's a temporary thing. I have more fun and I'm happier when I'm with my girlfriend or hanging out with other friends.
Those things make me smile still. I have so many good memories with friends and none with spending money. None. Money doesn't bring me happiness. It brings stress. It brings decisions that stop me from enjoying life.
Money is cool, but not what I need. I need quality time with friends. I need things that matter. things that will still be here no matter what our government does. I need love.
Thanks,
Tyler.

Et Al

The title of this one is an homage to a favorite band of mine. They have a song called "Et al" that is about pleasing others. It says,

 "Dance puppet boy. If you do a good job
Then they'll want you again, give it all that you got
Show them the joy and the pain and the ending
And then do it again and we'll all start pretendings
To pay more attention to what's aforementioned
And you bob your head 'cause you're not even listening.
A very small few of you even get meanings
But laugh, clown boy, laugh 'cause it's always so pleasing."

This song is really hard-hitting to me. It has a tough message. It speaks from the perspective of society. Society tells us, "Hey, if you do what we say, you'll be accepted."  The worst part is that we actually care. We believe that our well-being requires the acceptance of those around us. We "need" others to affirm us because we are taught that affirming ourselves is wrong.

We are taught that our personal opinions should not have anything to do with how we feel about ourselves, and in fact should change our ideas to conform to what people think about us. That in itself is something that should make little red flags pop up in our heads. It doesn't matter what other people think of you. It's your life, not their's. Society doesn't walk in your shoes. Society doesn't live your life. Society doesn't know you and all your secrets.

Just remember that.

Tyler